My husband has really been on a new adventure. He hasn't shared. Let me explain.
When we came to Dallas for Christmas, we only expected to stay for two weeks. Our apartment in Taipei was clean but both of us expected to go home. The cupboards were fairly bare and the refrigerator empty.

Well Mark went home and I stayed in Texas for cancer treatments. I can now join the fairly exclusive club of people who are cancer survivors from TWO different cancers. Yes indeed, my kidney cancer and breast cancer are unrelated (mostly) and I get to join that small but growing club.

It has been a real education for Mark. It isn't that he is incompetent because he is very competent. What it has been is a challenge in the differences between how a man's mind works and how a women's mind works. He doesn't actually admit defeat ever. Of course not, He knows how to do every task. He just doesn't understand how I have organized things.

The phone call goes something like this:

M: So, did you say that there might be some dishwasher detergent somewhere?
K: Well, yes. There was some under the sink, in a white Calgon container. Did you use that all up?
M: Yes, I did the dishes (I swoon here) and I used it up. Do you have more or should I buy some?
K: Well you cannot find it in a marked container. Look for the pasta container that is clear plastic under the kitchen sink.
M: (sometime later) There is nothing fitting that description under the sink.
K: Well okay then look in the bathroom, on the floor. (Not as easy as you think; we have four bathrooms)
M: I found it!
K: Pour some into the Calgon container. I told you we had some.

He's astonished that he decoded my system. I won't admit that it was as hard as it was for FEAR OF GIVING AWAY SOME WOMEN SECRETS.

So silly. Me not Mark. No wonder that after 30 years of marriage, I love him more than ever.